Is Meghan Markle a psychopath

Psychotherapist to Meghan & Harry: "He who is to blame also has power"

The psychotherapist and director of the Sindelar Center in Vienna, Christoph M. Sindelar, analyzes the psychological mechanisms that turn Meghan Markle into a boo and Prince Harry into a puppet who follows her without a will.

As current Meghan Markle has been countless women before her: Their actions were no different from those of men, and yet society agreed in silent agreement that the blame was to be found with the women. The psychotherapist and head of the Sindelar Center in Vienna, Christoph M. Sindelar, analyzes the psychological mechanisms that turn Meghan Markle into a boo and Prince Harry into a puppet who follows her without a will.

# 1 What leads to the eternal fairy tale of the wicked witch? When in doubt, why are women blamed as if the men involved had nothing to do with it?

First of all, it is important to say that being guilty also includes the power to decide situations accordingly. Whoever evades the question of guilt is a passenger. To put it more positively, this would be equated with responsibility. Meghan Markle is seen as the culprit. A lot of power is attributed to her and it seems as if she is at least not uncomfortable with it. Historically, women seem to have a tendency to be "to blame". The almost dusty saying "Behind every strong man there is an even stronger woman" makes sense again.

What is interesting here is that the narcissism that is more likely to be attributed to the male stereotype, to announce the decision and thus to be in public, still mostly belongs to the man. And then it is still said, "He suits his man", "He has an opinion", "He dares to attack", "A man with profile and edges". Whereas women are mostly depicted here as the "treacherous, manipulative snakes" in the background.

Probably only because of the fact that they act more pragmatically and the external image is less in the foreground for them, but rather the achievement of the desired goal. So it can be said that this says much more about the determination and the clear ideas of these women than about their deviousness. They are also less likely to shy away from being "to blame" and thus usually achieve a lot.

# 2 What does the blame on women say about our image of men?

In the above-mentioned representation, the male role model is a very weak, manipulable and not very independent one. From an analytical point of view, the detachment from the determining, support and structure-giving authority of the mother could only be achieved by replacing a woman who is at least as strong, which means that there was no pubertal rebellion on the part of the man against the dominant image of the mother. With which no own, mature and durable value system and self-esteem was created in order to have one's own opinion, to represent and to stand by it.

In fact, the current male role model is very bipolar. It is developing more and more in the direction of the poles of "nerds and best friends" and "machos and womanizers". There is less and less the search for manhood in the gray tones and bright colors in between.

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It would need just such "strong" men who understand and present their "soft" sides, without blurring into the sweet and unsteady.

The challenge begins here with the fathers, who can be role models for their sons when it comes to helping to shape and live an image of men for the next generation: that there can and must be "strong" men who understand themselves and their emotions , live and show.

# 3 Do you see any change in these stereotypes?

It can be seen that a generation is growing up and growing up regardless of gender. is in the relatively newly created development phase of the "emerging adulthood" - which has so many opportunities and possibilities for development as seldom a generation before. However, it seems almost paralyzed because of the lack of confidence in yourself when it comes to mastering this challenge of self-discovery and development. This is another reason why many remain in search of themselves forever.

Here we notice the growing up of many "pampered children" loosely based on Alfred Adler. What is meant here is not over-satisfying a need for tenderness, but rather: the failure to let the children solve problems that they are able to solve themselves.

Fail, continue, fail again, succeed, fall, get up, fall again and move forward. These are things that we trust our children and young people less and less because of fear and concern and thus convey to them at a meta level that we do not assume that they have the opportunity to overcome these hurdles in life. Even if it can be difficult now and then.

We should let them climb trees without the entire parenting of the playground dancing around the tree to catch them (which, by the way, means that I assume from the start that my child is probably too clumsy to climb and will fall).

We should let them deal with their disputes themselves, instead of transferring our own conflict aversion to them, let them practice organization - and practice also means failure.

Finally, it is important to note that children and adolescents, especially during puberty, have always tended to withdraw. This is normal for this development phase and has always been so. Only the medium has changed: from book to record to television to Youtube and "Fortnite".

Only if we manage not to perceive the world as a single fearful experience will we succeed in growing up people who go through life confidently, clearly and with profile. Regardless of their gender.

This article originally appeared in News Issue 3/20

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